It was Tuesday night after I had just got done grocery shopping, when I pulled into the local gas station parking lot and proceeded to go through my purse so I could find my card to go into and purchase whatever it was I needed to purchase. That’s when my 8 year old decided to ask me for ice cream and I responded with “right now we only have enough money for the necessities”.
I’m not sure why I expected him to respond understandingly but he responded the way that I’m sure we all have “I can’t wait to be a grown up so I can do what I want”. He wasn’t angry when he said this. He just really felt that when he grows up he can do whatever he wants and that is so far from the truth. Especially given the week I have had.
I stopped what I was doing and immediately just stared at hime and went on to explain that being a child, is the best years of your life. Don’t rush them. Something I had heard my entire life as a child and I just shrugged it off. I told him that he would do that, he would shrug it off and think that I’m crazy because being an adult seems so easy and it’s not. We pay bills and even go to work to make money to pay for those necessities and we don’t always get ice cream when we want because of responsibilities. He said he guesses he still wants to be a kid then.
It’s important that our children remember that they are children and have the exploration of children. Sometimes we get caught up in our own responsibilities and we forget to let them know that they are so young and have as much freedom as they ever will in this life. Sure, there’s rules they have to follow, but at least they don’t have to worry about that electric bill or paying rent. They don’t have the worry of buying themselves clothes or getting enough gas in their car so that their kids can go to school all week. They don’t have to borrow money.